I am not sure of where the time has gone! As we reflect on a year gone by it is important to remember to also reflect on the future ahead! Many people take the beginning of a new year to make resolutions.
I see the value in this idea and yet, why wait for a new year !
Ask yourself an important question "now what and begin to move forward."
Sunday, January 22, 2012
Friday, February 4, 2011
Is Sex as GOOD as Chocolate?
For some the answer is yes and for some the answer is no.
Personally, I never got into chocolate and would love to hear why people compare chocolate to sex.
Could we compare the orgasm to the sensation of tasting chocolate? Could we compare the intimacy that we can feel from sex to the excitement of unwrapping the chocolate bar? Could we compare intercourse to the motion of eating the chocolate?
Could it be that the only difference between sex and chocolate is the individual versus the couple involvement?
The answer is no - we can have sex by ourselves!
Let me know your thoughts on chocolate versus sex
Personally, I never got into chocolate and would love to hear why people compare chocolate to sex.
Could we compare the orgasm to the sensation of tasting chocolate? Could we compare the intimacy that we can feel from sex to the excitement of unwrapping the chocolate bar? Could we compare intercourse to the motion of eating the chocolate?
Could it be that the only difference between sex and chocolate is the individual versus the couple involvement?
The answer is no - we can have sex by ourselves!
Let me know your thoughts on chocolate versus sex
Wednesday, October 13, 2010
The Never Ending Conversation
As a couple, the truth is your "talks" are actually never ending conversations.
We tend to go over the same issues with our partners, perhaps with different words, but the same meaning is there.
Can you be clear with your partner about what you expect?
Are you able to see what your partner does for you and vice versa?
Can you talk about the behaviour that you find unacceptable and find the courage to say no more?
It is key to know what you need from your partner, how to be yourself and feeling understood.
I believe it is good to say that you have needs, want to be desired, have intimacy and creating a living space that allows everyone to flourish.
Understanding these ideas can help to sustain your relationship.
Working at a relationship is just that work!
Knowing what you need can help to create a sense of tolerance with each other. This can allow for one to let go of resentment that can be built up over time and creates disharmony in the couple.
When in a session, I ask people to be honest, take a step back and look at their "stuff" not just their partners.
Do that for yourself and enjoy the ride.
We tend to go over the same issues with our partners, perhaps with different words, but the same meaning is there.
Can you be clear with your partner about what you expect?
Are you able to see what your partner does for you and vice versa?
Can you talk about the behaviour that you find unacceptable and find the courage to say no more?
It is key to know what you need from your partner, how to be yourself and feeling understood.
I believe it is good to say that you have needs, want to be desired, have intimacy and creating a living space that allows everyone to flourish.
Understanding these ideas can help to sustain your relationship.
Working at a relationship is just that work!
Knowing what you need can help to create a sense of tolerance with each other. This can allow for one to let go of resentment that can be built up over time and creates disharmony in the couple.
When in a session, I ask people to be honest, take a step back and look at their "stuff" not just their partners.
Do that for yourself and enjoy the ride.
The Self check up for a relationship
Whether you are in a relationship or single, I think it is important to understand the type of relationship that you want to have.
Lets go through some of the basics.
Take a chance and discover yourself!
Think about these questions and answer truthfully.
1. Do you feel that you can give, take, ask, say yes or no in a relationship?
2. If asked, how would you describe your relationship?
3. When in a relationship, how do you see the impact of your own childhood on your reactions to your
partner?
Once you answer and if you are in a relationship, talk through the answers.
What can you learn from each other and how to improve your evolving relationship.
Lets go through some of the basics.
Take a chance and discover yourself!
Think about these questions and answer truthfully.
1. Do you feel that you can give, take, ask, say yes or no in a relationship?
2. If asked, how would you describe your relationship?
3. When in a relationship, how do you see the impact of your own childhood on your reactions to your
partner?
Once you answer and if you are in a relationship, talk through the answers.
What can you learn from each other and how to improve your evolving relationship.
Friday, October 8, 2010
Kid Suicide and the news
Anderson Cooper CNN had a bullying program on this evening.
It was tragic to watch how many kids have committed suicide and the stories of bullying.
I think that Bully's see themselves as having power and groupings are such a powerful tool to making kids feel isolated.
Help kids to feel supported, listen to them and their friends.
The idea that kids appear to be growing up without empathy is a scary thought.
Lets help them to know that the world can be a safe place and they don't need to feel shame for being gay, lesbian or just not part of the norm!
It was tragic to watch how many kids have committed suicide and the stories of bullying.
I think that Bully's see themselves as having power and groupings are such a powerful tool to making kids feel isolated.
Help kids to feel supported, listen to them and their friends.
The idea that kids appear to be growing up without empathy is a scary thought.
Lets help them to know that the world can be a safe place and they don't need to feel shame for being gay, lesbian or just not part of the norm!
Tuesday, October 5, 2010
Homework abound!
There has been much debate over the years regarding the necessity of copious amounts of homework for kids.
Can you tell my thought on this one!
The issue of homework often comes up when working with couples who have children. The stress of homework is not only felt by the child, but also the parents. Homework can trigger many unresolved issues for the couple around communication and parenting styles.
I have heard stories of children crying, while their parents argue over how much time and the quality of the work done.
How can you help yourself and child with homework which seems to "keep on coming"?
1. I always say ask for help from the Teachers, hopefully they can begin to help children learn strategies
for doing homework on their own.
2. Try to keep the time manageable for the child, as to not feel too overwhelmed.
3. Think about the study space for your child, comfortable seat or walking area, desk and surrounding
noise. I know many children who like to walk around while they are practicing for spelling.
4. Allow children the opportunity to feel successful and engage in the conversations if possible.
5. it is key that children learn how to work on their own for independence.
6. Talk as a couple and ask what is important for the family, what are the role models that you want to
give to your children, be aware of your own "school bags", your expectations, encourage for trying
and knowing that failure is actually part of the puzzle for success!
Can you tell my thought on this one!
The issue of homework often comes up when working with couples who have children. The stress of homework is not only felt by the child, but also the parents. Homework can trigger many unresolved issues for the couple around communication and parenting styles.
I have heard stories of children crying, while their parents argue over how much time and the quality of the work done.
How can you help yourself and child with homework which seems to "keep on coming"?
1. I always say ask for help from the Teachers, hopefully they can begin to help children learn strategies
for doing homework on their own.
2. Try to keep the time manageable for the child, as to not feel too overwhelmed.
3. Think about the study space for your child, comfortable seat or walking area, desk and surrounding
noise. I know many children who like to walk around while they are practicing for spelling.
4. Allow children the opportunity to feel successful and engage in the conversations if possible.
5. it is key that children learn how to work on their own for independence.
6. Talk as a couple and ask what is important for the family, what are the role models that you want to
give to your children, be aware of your own "school bags", your expectations, encourage for trying
and knowing that failure is actually part of the puzzle for success!
Monday, October 4, 2010
The chill in the air
Good morning, as the weather changes it reminds us all of the constant need to take care of ourselves.
Many people feel the affects of the season changes and impacts on one's mood and outlook.
How to help yourself during the shifts? I say wear a warm sweater!
It is important to be aware of your feelings and thoughts and I really believe that routine is key.
Feeling that you have routine helps sooth the anxiety and can give one a sense of empowerment.
Think about making plans for yourself, keep connected with family and friends.
I know not many people like to hear this but, any form of exercise can be helpful.
Enjoy the colors of the leaves.
Many people feel the affects of the season changes and impacts on one's mood and outlook.
How to help yourself during the shifts? I say wear a warm sweater!
It is important to be aware of your feelings and thoughts and I really believe that routine is key.
Feeling that you have routine helps sooth the anxiety and can give one a sense of empowerment.
Think about making plans for yourself, keep connected with family and friends.
I know not many people like to hear this but, any form of exercise can be helpful.
Enjoy the colors of the leaves.
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